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Mrs. Titilayomi Ahmadu, Chief Financial Officer of Multi-Trex Integrated Company, is a Chartered Accountant and Fellow of the Institute of Chartered Accountants of Nigeria (ICAN), preacher, teacher, mother and wife of Alhaji Olusegun Ahmadu. Senior Reporter, ANTHONIA SOYINGBE, was at her home last week where she opened up on her life and other issues. Excerpts:
Sunday Independent arrived the home of the Ahmadus that cool Friday morning and was received by courteous domestic staff. Few minutes later the beautiful homemaker of the Ahmadu family with her attractive dreadlocks came into the visitor’s sitting room with smiles, armed with her handbag and other personal computers.
After exchanging pleasantries, the woman who seemed to have seen it all but overcame trials and challenges through perseverance and absolute faith in God said: “It has been a bit difficult but it is also very interesting. It will also interest you to know that I am a born again Christian married to a Muslim but in any situation you are in life, God specifically put you there. Instead of looking at the downside of things, I look at the upside and I often ask God why. I was planted beside my husband for a reason. The first time my husband went to Mecca, I went with him and in my marriage life, I have learnt to adapt because God says so. The reason for marriage is for fellowship, adaptability and procreation. My place is to understand and to always support my husband. It is not as easy as I am saying it but it came with time.” She said when asked the secret of climbing to the peak of her career.
Narrating her experience years back, her husband always loved meeting her at home, so on a particular day in 1989, she went to church on that day, as a baby Christian then, she was often eager to participate in church activities. During the said day, she attended one of the activities in her church in which a guest preacher was invited. To her disappointment her husband who then travelled got home before her and from then on banned her from further attending any activity in her church. “I stopped going to church for about a month and thereafter I went back to him seeking his permission to go back to church and he expressly permitted me to go. He told me he was granting the permission because I did not rebel when he banned me from going to church. Till date, he gladly permits me to participate in all church activities.
I went with my daughter to England when she was going for her A’ level and we stayed there for two years. I had to resign from a job I was doing back there in England because it didn’t really afford me the opportunity to be with my family. With me, after God, my family comes next. In trying to do something else, I became a consultant for a popular cosmetics company and in three months, I became a director with the company,” she said while insisting that submission is the key to successful marriage.
One would have thought that there will be conflict of religion in her home but she explained that she compliments her husband’s faith and vice versa. Though she explained that she was on the verge of being ordained as a minister of the Redeemed Christian Church of God (RCCG) in 1992 but she declined, based on divine instruction as a result of her home. She works and adds values to people’s lives in her community.
A matron of youths in her church, her husband hosted youths from her church during their wedding anniversary. Buttressing her point on the absence of religious conflict in her home with smile, she explained: “We have never had conflict of religion in my home. My husband attended Olivet Baptist High School and some of the Christian doctrines which were imparted on him then he readily accepted contributed to his attainment in life. I teach him new things about Christianity from time to time.
Recently we had an Islamic lecture here. Our children were dedicated in the church. We enjoy teaching each other things. My husband often jokes that when we get to heaven and he finds out that Islam is the true religion, he will quickly get my hand and pull me to heaven and vice versa. Anything he wants to do that coincides with church, I go with him except he allows me to go. Submission is key in marriage and my home is my first ministry. God told me that my home is a ministry he gave to me. I went with my husband to Mecca the first time he went because he wanted me to go with him.”
At those waiting periods she explained that her husband unwaveringly stood by her. “I got pregnant a month after my wedding and I lost that pregnancy four months after. I got pregnant two years after and I thought that was hell not knowing that I would face 11 years before I conceive again. Two major things kept me and they are God and my husband. My husband is God’s special gift to me. During those period each time he came home and sees me crying, he will know that I have seen my monthly period and he often admonishes me to be patient and even if I can’t conceive he is not moved and we won’t visit spiritualists searching for a child. With my husband’s soothing words, I had no choice than to face God squarely. I memorised all bible passages concerning procreation. I went further by enrolling in a bible school but initially my husband didn’t approve of it because he thought that would make me a pastor. I got pregnant few months after I enrolled at the Bible College.”
Passionate about the plight of women in the society, she said with passion that: “I have learnt over the years that I should add value to the lives of women. It is so painful that lots of women are wasting away. This passion motivated me to start a group called New and Improve. I started the group by gathering my children, nephews and nieces and we strove hard to turn a better person. If we are desirous about a new and better Nigeria, then we must start with our family. We meet twice annually and we all struggle to be an improved person.”
Aside her numerous roles, she coordinates a rehabilitation centre known as The Holistic Outreach where ex-prostitutes are being rehabilitated to make them useful for themselves and the society. An Agriculture-Economics graduate of University of Ife, she had her secondary education at Queens School, Ibadan. Her hobbies are teaching, learning and mentoring.